The Un/Defined Solar Plexus
Today I want to share with you how Human Design shows up in real life and how my partner Nick and I use the knowledge in practice.
A typical love couple
With one half of the world population having a defined Solar Plexus and the other half an undefined Solar Plexus, it's quite common that a love couple consits of both. In all the chart readings that I have done for couples, most of them confirmed that one has the SP defined and one undefined. The same goes for my partner Nick and me - where I have a defined SP and he has an undefined SP.
Lisa has a defined Solar Plexus with the defined gates 22, 49 and 55.
Nick has an undefined Solar Plexus with defined gate 37.
We have both grown so much in the awareness of this center in our relationship. And knowing how we both experience and handle emotions really helps us to communicate and understand each other better.
How it used to be
We would go through our day and then out of nowhere Nick would ask me: ‘‘Is there something wrong?’’. I would feel a little assaulted by this question, because ‘‘NO!? There's nothing wrong.’’
We would continue the day both feeling a little strange and heavy, like there is something wrong... But we just cannot place it....
What actually happens in our mechanics
Nick picks up a sense of how I feel with his undefined Solar Plexus. He cannot really place the emotion, but it feels oppressive. His Not-Self thinks it has something to do with him and wants to avoid confrontation and truth. But even when he does start the conversation, he opens it with a closed question, which means there is no room, no spaciousness for the emotions to come through.
And on my sideI start my day like I always do and without me being aware of it, I have the emotional wave going on. Even if something nice happens in the day, the happiness still can feel dense and heavy by some feeling on the background. But remember, in that moment, I am not even aware of this. There is no clarity when in the emotional wave.
How it is nowadays
In the morning we wake up and start our day as usual. Then there's this moment where Nick asks me: 'how are you feeling today?'. I feel quite overwhelmed by this question and notice I check-in with myself... uhm... How do I actually feel today? I cannot really put the right words to it, so I answer: ''Hmm, I don't really know yet, but whatever it is, it has nothing to do with you.
We continue our day and at a later moment I become aware that I feel a little bit restless and heavy. There's no specific reason yet. I open the conversation with Nick to tell him how I feel. He confirmes: ''Yes, I could already sense it.'' He asks me some questions that help me to gain more clarity over what I feel and why. Within moments the energy in the air is cleared and it feels so much lighter for us both.
What happens within the mechanics
Nick already senses my emotions before I have any awareness of it. His strength lays in being the mirror, not the sponge. By asking me an open question on 'how do you feel?', I am able to check-in with myself.
It is then my job to be aware that there is no clarity in that moment for myself, but that I am making an impact on him with my wave.
The magic happens when I communicate clearly that it has nothing to do with him, so he can let go of becoming a sponge to my emotions.
Afterwards, when I have more clarity about how I feel and open myself to tell him, then he gets to guide me through my wave by asking questions and mirroring to me that it isn't that heavy at all and before we know it, the energy feels much lighter.
Make sure you check in with your chart and the one of your partner - how is the Solar Plexus un-/defined or is it maybe wide open? Just by being aware, it can make all the difference.
